July - Make love for 10 minutes a day


It was Ben's idea.
He says, "Love is the reason we're here (on earth)"
So to try it out, we teamed up for July and attempted to spend 10 minutes every day making love.

Not sex. Making love in our lives, making love a reality in our relationships....  lol got u


This looked like writing a letter to a friend who lives far away, or listening to a lonely person talk for too long. I did 10 minutes of Metta meditation sometimes, and I cleaned up more than 1 mess for roommates or family members who made the mess themselves.....

I would start most 10 minute love-making sessions with a mix of drudgery and excitement. Drudgery that I wasn't doing something for me, and excitement that I was being a good person!

My making love didn't always last for 10 minutes.
Most of the time I would just be talking with someone or about to NOT do something for another person, then I'd remember, "10 minutes of love!"  and I would choose whatever option I was about to pass up. The option that was more uncomfortable for me, but made the other person feel valued, appreciated, or loved.

Drudgery, excitement! Love as an act, not a feeling.

Haven't talked with Ben yet, and i'm hoping I didn't get the assignment confused and it's really just about having more sex. I could have avoided all that annoying listening and cleaning!

Oh well, at least someone felt more understood and the floor doesn't have sticky black goop on it any more :)

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